Hi, I’m pete tobias
My Story: From Struggle to Transformation
I used to be the person who felt like I was living life with the wrong instruction manual. Everything seemed harder for me than everyone else. I felt different, overwhelmed, and constantly battling a world that didn't make sense. I carried years of painful experiences, always wondering why I couldn't just "figure it out" like everyone else seemed to.
Then everything changed.
Through my own journey of self-discovery and healing, I transformed from someone who felt broken and out of place to someone who embraces their neurodivergent mind as a superpower. I went from feeling like an outsider to finding my tribe. From being constantly overwhelmed to learning how to stay regulated and thrive. From being weighed down by past trauma to living authentically in the present.
This transformation wasn't just personal – it became my calling.
Who I Serve
I specialize in working with neurodivergent adults, including those with:
Autism Spectrum Conditions
ADHD
Dyspraxia
Dyslexia
Other neurological differences
Whether you're newly diagnosed, self-identified, or have known about your neurodivergence for years, I meet you exactly where you are.
My Mission: Solving the Three Core Struggles
Through my work with hundreds of neurodivergent clients and my own transformation, I've identified the three fundamental struggles that keep ND adults stuck:
1. Feeling Different and Like an Outsider
The Pain: That crushing sense of not belonging, of being fundamentally different, of wearing a mask just to survive social situations.
The Solution: I help you not just accept your differences, but celebrate them. Together, we'll build authentic self-acceptance and help you find your community – people who get you and value your unique perspective.
2. Feeling Overwhelmed by a Neurotypical World
The Pain: Constant sensory overload, executive dysfunction, emotional dysregulation – feeling like you're drowning in a world designed for different brains.
The Solution: I teach you practical strategies to stay regulated, healthy, and thriving. You'll learn to work with your brain, not against it, creating systems that actually work for how you're wired.
3. Carrying Historic Painful Experiences
The Pain: Years of misunderstanding, rejection, trauma, and internalized shame that keeps you small and prevents you from living fully.
The Solution: Using psychodynamic approaches, we'll process these experiences safely, helping you step into your full authentic self and live the fulfilled life you deserve.
My Vision
To help neurodivergent people be more able to be themselves and live their lives in full.
I envision a world where neurodivergent adults don't just survive – they thrive. Where they embrace their unique wiring as a strength, not a limitation. Where they live authentically, love deeply, and contribute their gifts to the world without apology.
My Focus: Simplifying Your Path
Here's my promise: It doesn't have to be so complicated.
My focus is to simplify your journey to self-acceptance and authentic living. I cut through the noise, the overwhelm, and the confusion to give you clear, actionable steps that work specifically for neurodivergent minds.
No more trying to fit square pegs into round holes. No more exhausting yourself trying to be someone you're not.
The Transformation Awaits
I've been where you are, and I know where you can go. The person you're meant to be – authentic, confident, fulfilled – is already inside you. My job is to help you clear away everything that's blocking that person from shining.
Ready to write your own transformation story?
Pete Tobias is a certified psychodynamic life coach specializing in neurodivergent adults. Combining lived experience with professional expertise, Pete has helped hundreds of ND adults transform from feeling broken to embracing their superpowers.